Out walking the dogs a couple of weeks ago and we saw a murmuration of starlings (about 3000 at a guess) and I said to my husband, ‘we should film that’ and he replied, ‘or we could just watch it’. And it really made me think about how and when I have shifted from default watching to default capturing as a first response.
Love ya work thoughts and attitude to life and what’s thrown at us mate. Live yr views on sex and masculine toxicity.Really enjoyed the you tube podcast you did with the great american dude from the dating show he does.
Great 2hr insights into your most thought provoking inner thoughts.
Proof that these "extended egos" really be listening to our convos bc I was just talking to a friend about this! I reside in a lot of creative and community organizing spaces, and I was saying how a lot of times people talk like they're trying to have a viral moment whenever there is a debate or they're trying to make a loud and clear point. It's like the sense of being under constant content-driven surveillance is always lingering in the back of most people's minds when they're moving the world...Anyway, I loved every bit of this. Thank you.
Man. I hear it. I kind of have the reverse sometimes where I realise in hindsight that I might not have been “clippable” when makings points. Wild. Obscene.
I used to be a big fan on campervan influencer content. I’d watch YouTube video after YouTube video just listing after that lifestyle. That freedom. That ability to just be.
When I finally got my own van I signed up to go to a campervan festival where one of my favourite influencers would be giving a talk.
I remember seeing him throughout the whole festival - constantly filming. Always looking at a lens. Never looking at a person. Always talking to the camera. Never engaging in real conversation.
It was all content content content. Not a single moment of real connection with the people who followed him. I never watched those channels again.
I believe connection is altered by the presence of a camera. As soon as we know this is a moment that will be shared outside of those present - that it can be judged by another - we unconsciously (or consciously) change our behaviour. Our energy changes. The person we are talking too starts to wonder if we are really talking to them - or just acting for the camera.
I have so many photos and videos in my phone where I thought I should capture the moment - sunrises, meals, dog walks, holidays - and I’ve never returned to viewing them. They’re just a catalog of moments where I wasn’t present. Where I couldn’t just be and appreciate the moment.
And we all play into it. Every swipe, every view every like, just feeds the algorithm. Just reinforces that addictive loop that now seems to drive the world.
I’ve recently deleted all my social. Substack is the only one left. The only one where I can find people that still feel a little authentic. I hope it lasts.
Another question - if you’re filming an act of kindness - is it a true kindness or is it marketing? Do the intentions matter?
I’m going to share this on an upcoming newsletter. BTW, if you haven’t connected with Noel Clarke on here as yet, I think the two of you would share some things in common that many others here wouldn’t be able to connect with. @Noel Clarke
If I point the camera at my cat during a bonding moment he miaows at me with distain and does a bunk! After reading this I will forever have the thought that he is angry at our loss of real connection! I think you might be onto something though…
Really enjoyed this. It made me think of a concert I recently went to and seeing all the clips online the next day. In my head and heart I was dancing my heart out. Grinning. Dancing like I was 30 years younger than I am. But the videos where I spotted myself made me feel older, and less 'cool' as I clearly displayed an 'aunty dance'.. I would have so much better for not having seen these clips and just keeping my own rose tinted memory as that is the right one. In the moment I felt alive and happy to be in that moment.
This was really refreshing to read! I struggle sometimes trying to balance a 'genuine moment' with 'good content' - I really enjoyed reading this, thank you x
Really enjoyed and can relate to this - been finding recently something feeling extra special in times with friends or beautiful experiences that go unrecorded - treasure kept just in memories. Also thank you for introducing me to the artist you posted with this x
Out walking the dogs a couple of weeks ago and we saw a murmuration of starlings (about 3000 at a guess) and I said to my husband, ‘we should film that’ and he replied, ‘or we could just watch it’. And it really made me think about how and when I have shifted from default watching to default capturing as a first response.
Should have filmed it.
I love your thoughts, your words, your gift. Thanks for sharing JS
Love ya work thoughts and attitude to life and what’s thrown at us mate. Live yr views on sex and masculine toxicity.Really enjoyed the you tube podcast you did with the great american dude from the dating show he does.
Great 2hr insights into your most thought provoking inner thoughts.
Keep up the great work boy
Nick 👍🏻👌🏻🤜🏻🤛🏾
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Proof that these "extended egos" really be listening to our convos bc I was just talking to a friend about this! I reside in a lot of creative and community organizing spaces, and I was saying how a lot of times people talk like they're trying to have a viral moment whenever there is a debate or they're trying to make a loud and clear point. It's like the sense of being under constant content-driven surveillance is always lingering in the back of most people's minds when they're moving the world...Anyway, I loved every bit of this. Thank you.
Man. I hear it. I kind of have the reverse sometimes where I realise in hindsight that I might not have been “clippable” when makings points. Wild. Obscene.
😂Truly!
Love it mate. This stuff has been on my mind too.
I used to be a big fan on campervan influencer content. I’d watch YouTube video after YouTube video just listing after that lifestyle. That freedom. That ability to just be.
When I finally got my own van I signed up to go to a campervan festival where one of my favourite influencers would be giving a talk.
I remember seeing him throughout the whole festival - constantly filming. Always looking at a lens. Never looking at a person. Always talking to the camera. Never engaging in real conversation.
It was all content content content. Not a single moment of real connection with the people who followed him. I never watched those channels again.
I believe connection is altered by the presence of a camera. As soon as we know this is a moment that will be shared outside of those present - that it can be judged by another - we unconsciously (or consciously) change our behaviour. Our energy changes. The person we are talking too starts to wonder if we are really talking to them - or just acting for the camera.
I have so many photos and videos in my phone where I thought I should capture the moment - sunrises, meals, dog walks, holidays - and I’ve never returned to viewing them. They’re just a catalog of moments where I wasn’t present. Where I couldn’t just be and appreciate the moment.
And we all play into it. Every swipe, every view every like, just feeds the algorithm. Just reinforces that addictive loop that now seems to drive the world.
I’ve recently deleted all my social. Substack is the only one left. The only one where I can find people that still feel a little authentic. I hope it lasts.
Another question - if you’re filming an act of kindness - is it a true kindness or is it marketing? Do the intentions matter?
I’m going to share this on an upcoming newsletter. BTW, if you haven’t connected with Noel Clarke on here as yet, I think the two of you would share some things in common that many others here wouldn’t be able to connect with. @Noel Clarke
look forward to hearing
If I point the camera at my cat during a bonding moment he miaows at me with distain and does a bunk! After reading this I will forever have the thought that he is angry at our loss of real connection! I think you might be onto something though…
Wild!!! I imagine they can feel the shift in frequency? I have no idea. Wow
Really enjoyed this. It made me think of a concert I recently went to and seeing all the clips online the next day. In my head and heart I was dancing my heart out. Grinning. Dancing like I was 30 years younger than I am. But the videos where I spotted myself made me feel older, and less 'cool' as I clearly displayed an 'aunty dance'.. I would have so much better for not having seen these clips and just keeping my own rose tinted memory as that is the right one. In the moment I felt alive and happy to be in that moment.
This was really refreshing to read! I struggle sometimes trying to balance a 'genuine moment' with 'good content' - I really enjoyed reading this, thank you x
Soooooo true bro init 👍🏻👌🏻🤟🏻🙌🏻🙏🏻💙
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Really enjoyed and can relate to this - been finding recently something feeling extra special in times with friends or beautiful experiences that go unrecorded - treasure kept just in memories. Also thank you for introducing me to the artist you posted with this x
Yes. I totally get this. It feels like there’s a line…but so many people have gone way past it!